I recently met another mommy whose baby girl had anencephaly. She came over to my house a few weeks ago and we talked for hours. The most interesting thing about how we met is that two different people connected me with her. One of the people I teach with, and the other I randomly talked to a fabric store. One of the teachers I teach with told me about a young lady whom she believed had a baby two years ago with anencephaly. I was shocked to find out that there may be someone I could talk to. She gave me the girl's letter and phone number about a month before Christmas, but I didn't call. I wasn't sure what to say and was just busy with the holidays. I continued to think about talking to her and finding out how she went through her journey.
Christmas time came and my sister in law and I were at Hancock's. We were looking for fabric for Ellie, Noah, and Grayson's appliques. I wanted to find the perfect fabric for the outfits that they would wear to welcome Grayson. We were talking about how to do appliques and a lady started explaining to us how easy it was. She talked about her business and her grandchildren. She reassured us that it wouldn't be too hard. I walked off for a few minutes to continue looking at different fabrics. When I returned, the lady had tears in her eyes. I figured that Candy must have told her about Grayson. No quicker than I could say something about him, she said that she couldn't believe it. She knew someone whose baby had anencephaly. Wow, I could talk to two women about their journeys through anencephaly. As we talked, she told us that she knew it must be God that we met. She actually started a line of dresses to remember the baby. I was so excited. She said that I should really meet this young lady, and we exchanged numbers.
I couldn't wait to talk to both of these women. Two days later, Mary called me and emailed me. After reading her email, I got the chills. She informed me that in two months time, two different women had passed along her information to women who were having babies with anencephaly. Little did she know that I was the same person whom both of these women gave the information to. We talked for a while after I called her and planned to meet the following Saturday. I felt so relieved to know that I could have someone to talk to and bond with that had been through the very same thing. The reason this was so special was because 98% of women who find out they're having a baby with anencephaly terminate their pregnancy. This means that there aren't alot of people to talk to, especially in the same city.
I am sure that Mary and I will have a friendship that lasts for years to come. She has already offered so much support about everything. We looked at pictures of her little girl and talked about both of our angels. God has blessed her so much and helped her. I know He is going to do the same for me because He has promised me this because I am his child.